Thursday, November 27, 2008

宇宙小毛球

银河是宇宙的大街
天上有繁星点点
希望是挡雨的屋檐
让梦看见蓝天

辛苦的汗水最宝贵
一滴换一种体会
心和心反复地排练
好戏正要上演

和世界面对面
是爱和信念
每一步踏得更坚决
一路上你和我走在同一边

冷漠的人群是阴天
热情的心是晴天
愉快的天色是蓝天
我站在你身边

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

performativity.

i have a huge urge to quote, and then cite sources. but urges are meant to be curbed.

i was catching up on my news today, when i came across this: http://www.straitstimes.com/Breaking%2BNews/World/Story/STIStory_305851.html which reminds me of Untraceable.

Long before media was born, performativity existed. And it really seems like we react gracefully to changes. Almost as seamless as evolution, just like how we got over the shock of the tv and how the once alien object immediately became indispensable the next generation.

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

tradtion or sense? or is it not necessarily a choice?

Compromising traditional values seems to be an inevitable side effect of progress.

I was on the train ride home with a colleague who has recently been proposed to. She asked if I believed in premarital sex. Said she read somewhere that 1 in 2 Singaporean women does it. So she eyed me, since she didnt.

Then we talked about male virgins. I said I dont think there are many around, and we were both surprised at how different our answers were to "How many males do you think are virgins in this cabin and the two neighbouring ones?" Zero and more than half. Apparently, two people who work in the same environment can have very different perceptions of the world around us.

Two faces came to mind, both of whom swear by celibacy and seem a little over confident about their boyfriends being virgins. And both Catholic. I wonder if there's any correlation. But I digress.

My conversation with my friend from Chicago today steered from 'friends with benefits' to premarital sex. And he mentioned he thinks you should be intimate before you get married. I've considered his point before today, and decided it was valid, especially in his context. Sexual compatibility.

"What if you get married, and realise that you're not sexually compatible? Marriage is serious to me, and many marriages here fail."

I guess if I wear my granny's hat, I will say that no honourable marriage will fail because of sex. But I'm not my granny. When society stops offering comfort in the form of stability, affection rises exponentially in value.

Well, compatibility in that department is not a big problem in my context. Yet.